"Unwanted" is the story of Devina Jacobs, a black girl born in
the South during the Great Depression. Abandoned by both parents, Devina
was raised by a great-aunt but then later turned over to her uncaring
and often hateful mother. With a lack of parental supervision and no one
to teach her how to survive, much less succeed in life, Devina soon
found herself in trouble-with men and with the law.
The author,
Delores Justice, who is herself Devina Jacobs, tells her own story, but
has changed the names to protect those she loves. But "Unwanted" is far
more than a memoir-it's a time capsule, a page from American history
that provides a personal and introspective cultural look into
African-American history, the drug culture of the 1960s and '70s, and
how one woman survived against all odds-at times through luck and other
times by sheer determination. Readers quickly come to sympathize with
Devina, and while they might not always approve of the decisions she
makes, they never cease to cheer her on, hoping she will get herself
past the mistakes to create a better life for herself-and despite many
obstacles, she doesn't let her readers or herself down.
At the
center of Devina's story are a cast of characters any novelist would be
fortunate to bring to life. Devina's mother, Greta, is a stunning
embodiment of selfishness-a woman completely lacking in maternal
instinct. After abandoning Devina when she is only three months old,
Greta comes back into her life unwillingly when Devina is a teenager,
and from then until her death, Greta continually taunts her daughter,
trying to compete with her, to control her relationships, to abuse her,
and to lie about her to others to hurt her. In the book, Devina relates
what she endured as a teenager living with her mother:
She would
walk around the house and not speak to me, and then get on the phone and
say to her friends how she wished I wasn't there when I was right in
front of her. I was so unwanted. When she would tell me to go away, I
would say, "What did I do wrong?" She would usually answer, "Nothing. I
just don't like you," but sometimes she would admit, "I don't like you
because of who your father is." Then to get back at her, I would say,
"You don't even know who my father is."
After Devina becomes a
single mother and moves out, she has difficulty supporting herself. At
one point, she finds herself homeless and goes to her mother for
shelter. Rather than letting Devina or her infant child stay the night,
her mother replies, "Devina, close my door when you leave." Later, when
Devina ends up in jail, her mother tells her, "I'm so glad that they got
you. I was wondering how long it would take. You look good in here and
this is the right place for you." This mother-daughter relationship will
leave readers shaking their heads, wondering how any mother could
behave in such a way. And yet, they will understand why Devina
repeatedly tried to repair the relationship until she justifiably gave
up.
Another memorable character is Eddie, a man who enters
Devina's life with good intentions and helps her when she is most in
need, but Eddie is haunted by his own demons, from drinking to a hot
temper, as well as low self-esteem. Devina and Eddie's long-term
relationship of ups and downs reflects how people can become stuck in
ruts from which they refuse to dig themselves out, as well as how one
woman, despite those around her, was determined to make life better for
herself even when the most important people in her life would not
support or join her.
Most admirable is the honesty of this book.
Devina never seems to hide the truth or try to color things to make
herself or anyone else look better than he or she really was. She
forthrightly tells her story, not to justify her behavior, but to
justify her existence. Although born an unwanted child, she comes to
feel justified in the fact that God had reason for her to live and she
has found a purpose, first in raising her grandson and then in writing
her book. Today, she wants her story told so it may serve as an example
to others, to provide hope to those at the low points of their lives,
and to prevent others from making the mistakes she made.
In the end, Delores steps forward and reveals that we can have a better life if we only take time to think about our actions:
Each
situation that presented itself in my life gave me a choice to make. I
could choose what often seemed easy or fun, but that usually resulted in
problems for me down the road-those choices were usually the ones where
I didn't think. At other times, I could choose to do something to
improve my life. I hope after reading about the choices I have made,
readers will learn to make good choices for themselves.
I
sincerely hope readers will make the choice to read "Unwanted," to spend
some time getting to know Devina Jacobs. She is an unforgettable woman
whose story will make readers reconsider where we have been,
individually and as a nation, where we are today, and what is possible
if we only choose it.
One Woman's Step-By-Step Journey From Dysfunction to Inspiration
Posted by Planet Pluto at Sunday, August 07, 2011
Tyler R. Tichelaar holds a Bachelor's and Master's Degree from
Northern Michigan University and a Ph.D. from Western Michigan
University. His family's long relationship with Upper Michigan and his
avid interest in genealogy inspired Dr. Tichelaar to write his Marquette
Trilogy: Iron Pioneers, The Queen City, and Superior Heritage. Dr.
Tichelaar is also a professional book reviewer and editor. For more
information about Tyler R. Tichelaar, his writing, and his author
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